Life Isn’t fair

                  ”Life Isn’t fair”. I, like most people first heard that phrase from my parents. It was usually predicated by not getting what I wanted in a given situation. We have all used it as a response to pacify someone’s disappointment even though it’s stating the obvious and doesn’t help the current situation in the least. So if we all know that life isn’t fair then why do we still expect it to be? Many are hoping to “wait it out” and then life will become fair. These are the same people who sit in 7/11 parking lots and scratch off lottery tickets with their lucky penny while chain smoking Marlboro Lights. Waiting for your life to turn around and set itself on a steady course is nothing more than giving in to the whim and mercy of every circumstance that affects you and challenges you.  

                      For a lot of people I know, complaining about life is their life. They see the bad and negative in everything that they do and they want you to see it also. Commiserating about life’s lack of fairness and injustices is the focal point of so many conversations that the Ghost Busters may be needed to straighten us out again. Pointing out the imperfection in a rainbow does not make it any less beautiful to me.

                      Life was never intended to be fair. It was intended to be what you make it. While some may have been born with a silver spoon in their mouth and seemingly have everything that they want they are not necessarily happy with their lives. I have personally known a few miserable millionaires that seemed to have it all. Once you give in to the fact that life is not fair you begin to accept responsibility for what happens next in your life. The misconception that your turn is coming is a sombering wake up call that should encourage you to stop feeling sorry for yourself and take steps to find true personal happiness.  

                      It’s all so simple, right? Personal tragedies, financial problems, relationship issues and job pressures all bitch-slapping you at every corner with no reprieve in sight. Feeling victimized? Treated unfairly? Have a pity-party for yourself and then pick one item in your life that you want to improve and then go improve it. Or, you could do what you’ve been doing and continue to piss and moan about life’s unfairness to nearly everyone you meet.

                                 Since life is comprised of individual lives interacting with each other it is easy to assume that people who think life is unfair are also quick to blame others for their failures or lack of success. Not only is life not fair but it’s everyone else’s fault. As a fighter and coach I have learned that circumstances do not make a great fighter, they reveal him. Blaming others is an admission that you are powerless over your own life. So either suck it up and make some positive changes in your life or get a new lucky penny and keep scratching.